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What's done is done...

Posted on May 16, 2019 at 6:05 PM Comments comments (0)

During our Winter hibernation our inner world went through a deep transformation. And as we come into Spring we are seeing the effects of this transformation. We seem to be done. Tired, exhausted, and depleted in some area of our life. It's different for everyone, but I see it everywhere, including in myself. We have been learning how to draw boundaries for years, and it is finally here, that point of no return for whatever has not shifted along with us in our life. We are no longer willing to sacrifice our well-being for the good of others. Even and especially for those we love. Why? Because first, we see it's just not sustainable, and if we go down, the whole ship goes down. And secondly, it is tied into some belief we had ingrained in us about this is how we are supposed to be and do life. And that belief is what has to be done.

It is not about the other people. It is about something inside of us that we have been denying for far too long. It made us devalue ourselves, play smaller than we wanted to, and frankly, just drains us. And you know what it is.

I can tell you this is simple, it will look obvious, you will wonder why you made it so hard, did it for so long, allowed yourself to suffer so much. Such is the nature of a false belief. It feels so real you will resist changing it/letting go/surrendering it, with all you have.

But this winter, something changed. Something has ended. As I have been saying in the astrology and energy updates for months, with all those full moons at 0 degrees, 5 in a row, followed by the last Full Moon in Libra at 29 degrees (the last degree, the last train), it brought endings. The old is dying away. It has to go to make room for more Light. The Light won't support the old. You are the Light. We are the Love. And we've just had a reality check on that. Meaning in order for us to love others, to be present, to do good, we have to love ourselves first. And love is synonymous with value, matter, care for. This is the awakening. This is the shift that needs to happen. Aren't you so done?

To move forward we have to live differently. More on our terms. More in alignment with what is good for us. And more fully who we came here to be. It doesn't matter how that shows up. Whatever it looks like for you. All that matters is that we live like we matter. That's the first step. Anything less than that, we are done with.

What would you do differently if you were the priority in your life?

What would your future self ask you to do today?

If you too are experiencing this, hit reply right now,because I'd love to know!

Aquarius New Moon

Posted on February 4, 2019 at 1:00 AM Comments comments (1)

The Sun and Moon join hands for a New Moon in Aquarius @ 15degrees on February 4th at 1:03 pm PST. Aquarius is an Air sign- the waves depicted in its symbol commonly mistaken for water are energy waves. And though its symbol is the Water Bearer it is spiritual energy being poured forth, wisdom, a higher intellectual freedom. Freeing us of the past and outdated thought both individually and collectively. Aquarius rules Individuality, uniqueness, technology, the internet, groups, and aspirations or goals, because it rules future and forward thinking. As well as the way we are all connected by energy.

 

The planetary ruler of this new moon is Uranus. Uranus (the unexpected) and Mars (physical body/energy and god of war) are within conjunction (touching) to each other and Mars is just coming off a square (challenge) to Pluto. Was this last week intense? Did you feel like rebelling? Or were you exhausted? Or were you feeling empowered? Or some roller coaster of all three? I feel ya. There can still be some intense energies lingering. Expect the unexpected and watch yours and others tempers, and be physically conscious. Good vibes are coming…

 

Sun, Moon and Mercury all in Aquarius- Bringing us inspiration, new ideas, plans for ideas, a great time to think outside the box and to communicate your ideas! With this kind of energy it is wonderful to take the opportunity to write down any dreams, inspiration, new thoughts or ideas. Write, write, write because the energy comes and then it goes. But what it can leave you with are nuggets to the next steps to fulfilling your dreams.

 

AND this New Moon and Mercury are all in sextile (easy energy) to Jupiter! Bringing blessings, expansion and opportunities to talk about your ideas and plans, share them with friends groups and community, and plant seeds to harvest in the following months.Jupiter also governs our beliefs, so it is really important to clean out the beliefs in our mind that are outdated or hold us back from opportunity. Plant new beliefs that you not only resonate with but that also raise your vibration, contribute to your well-being, sense of self worth and success!

 

This New Moon will finally feel like we started 2019!

 

The month has all planets in direct motion! Great time for new beginnings, initiation, forward movement, and meetings of all kinds.

 

Venus joins Saturn and Pluto in Capricorn, urging us to whistle while you work. Because work you must to get organized, take action, tackle the mountain that is 2019. Venus here all month says let’s enjoy making money, taking care of business and being disciplined!

 

If you’re not feeling all this great opportunity and optimism, hold on. Stay true. It will come. Not only are you probably just recovering from all manner of astrological and galactic events. You’ve also just been hit by the Chiron bug. At 29 degrees Pisces, Chiron was very much a part of our Lunar Eclipse at 0 degrees Leo a couple weeks ago and its impact reverberated deeply. Chiron is the Wounded Healer and we may have had some old wounds come up??? Do I belong? Am I worthy? Why am I even here/who am I? Sometimes these old wounds come up to help us claim the answer, our truth at a greater level. We can choose to stay in the confusion and pain or we can choose to love ourself, move forward, trusting the Universe to guide us. I hope you’ve worked through most of it. If not, let me know and I’ll help, alot of it depends on where Chiron falls in your natal chart or is transiting. Chiron at the last degree of the last sign of the zodiac gives an extremely strong message- you are a Spiritual Being having a human experience and you are here to heal your human self, integrate (and master) the physical and master your spiritual vibration. Got it? Yeah, it takes me under some days too.

 

But take heart because honestly the energy is shifting and so much love and light is integrating, so put your focus there. Have hope, be present, see the good, be grateful and Jupiter will expand that feeling and bring you opportunity for more. Work hard, but bring your joy to your work too. So much of life is wash on/wash off. But it’s in that discipline and focus combined with this New Moon energy that those moments of inspiration can hit us in a flash and change our perspective. Be present because the wind is shifting and who knows what goodness is coming in on these new waves.

Let's Do the Damn Thing!

Posted on February 2, 2019 at 9:50 PM Comments comments (0)

I've always said that change happens in 3 phases-

Phase 1- Motivation/Momentum

Phase 2- You hit the wall

Phase 3- You got this

Did you know that when a rocketship flies to the moon it flies off course more 90% of the time? It is in a near constant state of self adjustment to reach it's goal...

In January most of us jump on the New Year/New You train in one form or another. So by February if our motivation has dwindled and our momentum has all but disappeared we can come up with a lot of resistance! I'm tired, it's hard, I'm not good enough...But that's not resistance, that is fear. Fear you'll fail. Fear you'll embarrass yourself, fear you don't have what it takes. You can get stuck even consumed in this resistance. Whatever your goal or vision or word was for 2019 I'd bet money you've hit the wall with it. Struggle, resistance, fear.

Good news is this is all perfectly normal! And a lot of it is biological! Why we picked the dead of winter to act like a spring chicken I'll never understand! (unless you live below the equator of course) Unlike Spring, we are indoors more and we have less energy (hibernation) naturally because there's less sunlight, and because of all this and more it can really mess with our mojo.

So how can we keep our commitment to change while fighting all this winter biology? Let's get back to the basics! The foundation of any good plan for change.

First, are you getting enough hydration? Did you know the first symptom of dehydration is fatigue? So if you are tired, ask yourself, are you drinking enough water? In the winter there is less humidity in the colder air so we can get dehydrated easily!

Next, are you getting enough sleep? Our body wants to follow the rhythm of the sun. Try adjusting your sleep cycle to be in more in flow with the sun going down and coming up, you might need more sleep than you realize in the winter. More down time before sleep is ideal. Shut off the screen time earlier in the winter because it gives our brain a false send of "light" and keeps us awake. Make extra time to snuggle, read or do a hobby in the winter. Great time to color!

What about your Spirit? Are you feeding your spirit? Winter is an internal time...and the perfect time for cultivating the habit of a morning ritual that connects you to spirit, serves your vision and raises your vibration. If you've worked with me at all you know I am a 10 minute morning devotee. I get my coffee, set my timer for 5-10 mins (usually10 now), get comfortable and get connected to myself and then spirit. I "run" my Chakras, (more on that later) but basically I wake them up by putting my attention on each of them and get them glowing and vibrating clearly. I then use this time to visualize love, abundance, my personal vision of success or whatever I am working on or is needed that day and prayers. 

So as you can see self care is a huge part of Phase 2 when we hit resistence. So is mindset, the things we tell ourselves conciously or unconciously all day long. Mindset is a set of beliefs the mind is set on believing, true or not. It is a habit that largly goes unquestioned. This is where we address FEAR- False Evidence Appearing Real. So as part of breaking through resistance/fear we have to continually choose to not listen to negative thoughts (crap) our mind is telling us. Make a list of 5 things you're afraid of. Now make a list 15 reasons they are not true. 

If you believe you can't, your'e right. If you believe you can, you're right. It's your choice. Choose You.

So cut the crap, make the adjustments, and let's do the damn thing!

On the horizon lay 2019

Posted on December 30, 2018 at 11:25 PM Comments comments (0)

On the horizon lay 2019. Once we enter the gateway, cross the threshold there is no return to the old vibration. Be clean, be clear, be complete. As much as you can be �� 2019 is the year of Rebirth. And as such, it is the year we embrace, without question or pause, with full responsibility, that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience. For this reason it will be a year of mastering our vibration. Understanding we are Co-creators. From our vibration we will create all things. Expand your inner world first and the manifestation will follow. Truly Be the change you seek and remember it is seeking you. The Universe is in a constant state of birth, rebirth and creation. Change is the natural state of life. Spirit is saying get used to it. This will be a major theme of 2019. Please, stop trying to keep everything the same or last forever. It is not our natural state of Being. We are here to evolve. To bring in the Light and Divine Love. Master that and your manifestation follows. Believe me, on a human level, every time I go about this backwards (the normal, old way) I get slapped upside my head. I get it now. 2019 is a 12/3 year. The number 3 is creative expression, to give life to something. What I think of as the miracle number, where 2 come together and create a 3rd, a child. The miracle of birth! The Holy Trinity. Feminine, Masculine, Spirit. Body, mind, soul. Air, earth, water, and many others. This brings us beyond duality into connectedness. Oneness. Unity. Love. Trust. Faith. Hope. I’ve been seeing and saying (along with many others) for a long time we’ve been giving birth to our new selves, our soul, our new earth our new world. She’s almost here. #seeyouontheotherside #2019 #rebirth #midwifeofthespirit #lightworker #changemaster #flow #spirit #highvibes #loveandlight #chooselove #morelove #loveyouguys #wishingyoupeace ❤️✨❤️

Solstice Ritual

Posted on December 14, 2018 at 5:10 PM Comments comments (0)

This 2018 Winter Solstice is just hours before the last full Moon of 2018. I designed this ritual around that combination. It is a 2 part ritual.

Keep in mind 2018 was an 11 year, meaning the purpose of an 11 year is to master your human self; face your fears of feeling lost, not good enough and powerless (to name a few), to create the change you need to connect your human self to your soul path and to do all this through an authentic and increased connection to Spirit. You are a Spiritual Being having a Human experience. 

11 is a master number and is connected to the Great Awakening. And I'm sure most of you reading this has had some kind of challenge(s) this year that brought you to a realization that things need to change, an awakening. If this is the case you have some clearing and claiming to do before you move into the new energies of 2019 and I highly recommend this exercise. A marker is always good. 

The Winter Solstice is the day when we have the least amount of light in the day, and from then on we move out of the introspection of inner darkenss and begin to move towards more light, peaking at the Summer Solstice. Though we still have the winter to go through, we know it is the end of a cycle and the beginning of a new one. 

Solstice Ritual~

Part One~ First, write down all the fears and worries you felt during 2018, make a list. Put a check mark next to any that actually came true. Notice how many did not come true. How do you feel about all that time and energy you wasted envisioning something negative that never happened? I call this using your imagination in/to the dark. Write that down. Make a promise to not give worry and fear so much power moving forward into 2019. Write that promise down.

Next, if you had any fears that did come true, write down the lesson you learned. If you gave up on something, or failed at something, write down what you learned from the experience. How can you use it to move your forward? These are difficult experiences and you paid a high price for the wisdom it gave you, acknowlege and keep it!

Now write down all the strengths, lessons, changes, accomplishments, miracles, surprises and well, all the good stuff you got out of 2018. Put a check mark next to the ones you want to bring into 2019 with you to continue to grow in. Did your income increase? Did you make improvements to your health, you were a better communicator? Did you serve more, take care of yourself better, and love more? That's the stuff that matters, bring that with you!

Burn (represents light and letting go) this list with sage or something you like, to purify your intentions and let the remnant rise to Spirit. Say aloud or even chant out grattitudes for 2018, and that you are ready to receive your highest good on your Soul Path, and you promise to follow your intuition and guidance,trusting it will take you there, one step at a time. 

Part 2~ The timing is whatever you are called to, but for this I prefer the next day, which is the first day of light and the full moon at 0 degrees in Cancer. This is the 2nd of 5 full moons at zero degrees, nothing auspicious there! To bring in the new Solstice light energy, find and choose a crystal that represents the Sun or Light to you, and a small piece of paper.

Sit with the crystal, outside if possible and meditate on the Light. Ask to be shown your hightest and best soul path for 2019. You might hear or see words and feelings, you might see a scene, continue to look with your 3rd eye. Try to listen with your spiritual ear.  Try to lean into and feel what your soul wants you to feel. Whatever message you get, and however you get it, just trust it and write it down when your'e ready.

Additionally write down any wish you would like to have come true in 2019, something that feels like a big wish.

And finally write down 3 things that are non-negotionables that you would like to be, do,nor have in 2019.

Place the paper under the crystal until the Summer Soltice. Let your wishes and intentions go to the Full Moon in Cancer who will nurture, protect, and take care of it. 

Bonus** Take all your crystals out tonight to charge them under this glorious Solstice Full Moon. 

If you do this Solstice Ritual, please share your experience in the comments below, I'd love to know!


Persephone Rises

Posted on March 20, 2017 at 12:35 AM Comments comments (1)

If you have been with Persephone and feel a need to rise to the light, this is for you~

Leaving darkness behind we take flight to the light

Unable to sustain our need for growth we rise to the light

From September to March we withdraw into the internal

We let change have its way with us

Take root in the darkness, the unknown, the void

I grieve that I must leave the moist comfort of my internal safe world

But the light draws me

She calls me

My Soul yearns

To live in the light again

I had a dream I was holding a bird

A large, calm bird, in my arms

Who kept changing who she was

She was mine and I was hers

I wondered later, why I was holding the bird

Carrying her along, why she was not flying

She seemed, at home

Have I grown so comfortable in my rootedness

Have I lost my instinct to fly

Am I afraid that if I let go and fly so high

I will be untethered from all I love and cherish

Will I want to come home

Who will I be without my home

As the Spring calls to me

My Soul wants to answer

I have been home long enough

I have been in the underground

It is time to rise to the light

 

Eclipse- Choose Life

Posted on February 25, 2017 at 2:15 PM Comments comments (0)

For a couple of years now we have been dipping our toes in the waters of change. It has been a process of feeling our fear, pushing forward and sometimes, retreating. Sometimes catching our breath, sometimes overwhelmed we rest. We have faced what we could, left our comfort zones behind us and moved ahead. But still we fall back to times when we feel confused, lost, and like something, direction, is missing. Like the pangs of birthing contractions, this is normal and human. But eventually we must PUSH to birth our new life. Eventually we must dig deeper than EVER BEFORE and give it ALL we've got to birth our TRUE SELVES and our NEW LIFE. This New Moon Eclipse, exact at 6:58am pst tomorrow is a beautiful combination of Piscean and Aries influence that creates the birthing room. It's influence will resonate for about 6 months. Pisces is the nourishment and safety of the water that carries us through. Aries is the fire in the belly that forces us to push. There comes a time when we have to SURRENDER to CHANGE. You can not fight it. You can not drag it. You have been aware long enough...Pluto (in a T-square to this mix) says it is Now. Childbirth is so difficult it teeters on the brink of life and death. Choose Life. When the Eclipse passes, Clarity will find you. When the Sun moves into Aries, you will be called to push. Prepare now. I wish you the clarity and courage to do so. If you need support through this passage, I am a Mid-Wife of the Spirit :) Send me a message. Much love to you all.

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Aquarius New Moon

Posted on January 28, 2017 at 2:55 PM Comments comments (1)

New Partnership

Posted on January 24, 2017 at 4:30 PM Comments comments (0)

I am very happy to announce a partnership with Pilgrim's Way Books in Carmel. I have been graciously invited to do group Intuitive Readings there on the 2nd Saturday of every month. "Tea & Tarot with Wendy" Absolutely lovely! I hope to see you there!

Learn more here

http://pilgrimsway.com/2017/01/03/tea-tarot-with-wendy-at-the-round-table/

Perfect For Me

Posted on March 30, 2015 at 1:35 PM Comments comments (0)

More Love Monday Mantra!

"My True Love Is not perfect, but perfect for Me".  

Last week I had to have a tough conversation with a client. I had to tell him that I sent him someone perfect for him, but he missed it because he thought she wasn't "perfect". I felt so sad for him. I explained to him that the "flaw" he saw was so small that even I hadn't noticed it. And so insignficant to her beauty and intelligent nature. After we talked he felt regretfull and called to ask her out again. But she said no because she had felt his judgemental nature. So sad. 

We've all heard the admonition- don't expect perfect. And I agree! And I disagree! What?? Can I do that? Yes, it's my blog ;0

So here's why~ When we are out there looking for perfection; what are we really doing? What is it that we really want? Do we know? Or are we just making sure we don't get hurt and ALL our wants and desires are satisfied? 

Are you a perfectionist in the other areas of your life? Does this crossover into your relationships? Your search for love?

Here's an exercise--If you made a list of the perfect partner, where do you fall in matching that list? Are you generous, fit and funny (fill in the blanks)? Or are you uncociously looking for someone to complete you, to bring the qualities you currently lack but want/admire in your life? 

Or do you exhaust yourself, trying to be perfect; to hide your percieved flaws and therefore find it difficult to tolerate imperfection in others?

It may be time to ask- What's love got to do with it? Perfectionism has nothing to do with Love.

The best thing you can do in the process of waiting for and finding The One is to figure out what you need, not what you expect. And then be the kind of person worthy of that. Be the best version of who you want, that you can be. That's not perfection, that's real. And worth it. 

Looking for the right one can be tricky business. There is nothing in this life that can touch us any deeper than love. For better or for worse. Finding and keeping Love isn't out there; it's starts within you.

If you are stuck in a pattern of perfectionism you are setting up your love life and your heart, for failure. Ugh! We do not want those words in the same sentence! So, I encourage you to ask yourself- Do you want perfect or perfect for you? Trust me, they are not the same. Perfect for you makes you much happier!

Make the list, and then get to work on you. 

Wishing you More Love,

Wendy


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