|Posted on January 24, 2017 at 4:30 PM||comments (0)|
I am very happy to announce a partnership with Pilgrim's Way Books in Carmel. I have been graciously invited to do group Intuitive Readings there on the 2nd Saturday of every month. "Tea & Tarot with Wendy" Absolutely lovely! I hope to see you there!
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|Posted on March 30, 2015 at 1:35 PM||comments (0)|
More Love Monday Mantra!
"My True Love Is not perfect, but perfect for Me".
Last week I had to have a tough conversation with a client. I had to tell him that I sent him someone perfect for him, but he missed it because he thought she wasn't "perfect". I felt so sad for him. I explained to him that the "flaw" he saw was so small that even I hadn't noticed it. And so insignficant to her beauty and intelligent nature. After we talked he felt regretfull and called to ask her out again. But she said no because she had felt his judgemental nature. So sad.
We've all heard the admonition- don't expect perfect. And I agree! And I disagree! What?? Can I do that? Yes, it's my blog ;0
So here's why~ When we are out there looking for perfection; what are we really doing? What is it that we really want? Do we know? Or are we just making sure we don't get hurt and ALL our wants and desires are satisfied?
Are you a perfectionist in the other areas of your life? Does this crossover into your relationships? Your search for love?
Here's an exercise--If you made a list of the perfect partner, where do you fall in matching that list? Are you generous, fit and funny (fill in the blanks)? Or are you uncociously looking for someone to complete you, to bring the qualities you currently lack but want/admire in your life?
Or do you exhaust yourself, trying to be perfect; to hide your percieved flaws and therefore find it difficult to tolerate imperfection in others?
It may be time to ask- What's love got to do with it? Perfectionism has nothing to do with Love.
The best thing you can do in the process of waiting for and finding The One is to figure out what you need, not what you expect. And then be the kind of person worthy of that. Be the best version of who you want, that you can be. That's not perfection, that's real. And worth it.
Looking for the right one can be tricky business. There is nothing in this life that can touch us any deeper than love. For better or for worse. Finding and keeping Love isn't out there; it's starts within you.
If you are stuck in a pattern of perfectionism you are setting up your love life and your heart, for failure. Ugh! We do not want those words in the same sentence! So, I encourage you to ask yourself- Do you want perfect or perfect for you? Trust me, they are not the same. Perfect for you makes you much happier!
Make the list, and then get to work on you.
Wishing you More Love,
|Posted on January 7, 2015 at 12:10 AM||comments (0)|
We all have an innate need to belong. Part of it is in our survival DNA, it's safer to belong. But there's a deeper, better reason I believe. It's who we become when we belong.
Love is the ultimate challenge. You know it and I know it. Because Love is why we are here. And fear is why it all falls apart. Then how do we get there, past the fear to the Love that heals?
It starts with who you pick. And if you keep picking the same type, have a certain pattern, then your unconcious is trying to heal something, a very old wound. But instead of the healing love you dream of you keep hitting the same pain, and a stronger wall goes up. I can guarentee you that every realtionship hits that pain in some way. That at some point the thing you need most is the hardest for them to give and visa vesa. That is why we all need more love; either more love for yourself, or share more love with your partner. More love heals all fear and allows for trust and vulnerability, which is where true love is born and reignighted over and over again.
Relationship has evolved. The new relationship, if it's going to go the distance, allowing for maximum Love, has to be safe. And at the same time has to be dynamic, conscious, alive, so that in that cradle it also challenges us to grow, to discover More Love, to become our Best Self.
Hence the saying~ You make me want to be a better man. Or woman.
True love empowers us.
My philosophy is we're all a little quirky, with a side of wounds and fears. And yet, we are also unique, brave, lovely and here for a purpose. I make matches based on that as much as your values, chemistry, levels of awareness and spirituality.
If you want something more and better than you have ever had, my purpose is to help you believe that's possible, and then guide you to and through it.
Who's done with the old way of doing relationship?