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July 20th New Moon In Cancer


Rare New Moon in Cancer- 28 degrees, 2nd one this month!

Sometimes I feel these energies so intensely in my human self it takes me a while to integrate and discern the lesson to share with you. Here we go…

The New Moon was exact at 28 degrees Cancer, at 10:33 am PST. Please look to that where that is in your personal chart to understand what area of your life this energy is focused in. If you need help just let me know.

The first New Moon of the month was the Solar Eclipse on the Solstice (July 4th) at 0 degree Cancer. Now it is at the end degrees of Cancer and opposing the heavyweights, Jupiter and Pluto, and specifically Saturn, all still in Capricorn.

Cancer is a water sign ruled by the Moon; our emotions have come in big waves and we feel them deeply. Since the July 4th eclipse in Cancer, we have may have been experiencing a heightened sensitivity and an accompanying depletion. A New Moon in its own sign is always a heads up powerful time.

This is the story of Yin and Yang, feminine and masculine, mother and father, and of integrating these energies inside us. The energies of Cancer (feminine) and Capricorn (masculine) are opposing each other and in a New Moon we need to integrate and balance these energies to move forward.

Cancer energy is all about home, safety, nurturing, cocooning, mothering, and getting things done, albeit cautiously and practically, as is true to Cancer’s nature. We’ve been focusing (due also to the restrictive energy of Capricorn) on staying home, staying safe, nurturing ourselves, improving our home, mastering sourdough bread and caretaking. Even if you have not been able to stay home or have to work from home, chances are these energies have been dominant. Cancer wants to make things better; whether it’s home improvement, kissing a booboo, improving your comfort or making the world (our ultimate home) a better place. Cancer and its ruler the Moon is our emotional landscape and that’s where it gets deep. The Moon is a reflective energy and one thing Cancer tends not to do is not take of itself. We all have Cancer somewhere in our chart, and of course it’s strongest if your Sun, Moon or Rising is Cancer. The Sun and Moon are asking to take care of herself now, again. And to watch out for the shadow side, to self-correct when self-nurturing has become perfectionism and/or self-indulging.

Capricorn, and its ruler Saturn, gives us (an unrelenting) reality check on how we do that. Time has come to take stock of what is working and what isn’t. Intuitively you know. He asks of us; what positive changes can I make that will make ME FEEL BETTER about myself? Eating, drinking, smoking, even working too much can make you feel better in the moment but not better about yourself. That’s the shift that has to happen here.

Just let me say, if this is you (and I haven’t talked to anyone yet that it isn’t) you are not being too sensitive or weak and there is not something wrong with you. You are having a normal reaction to an abnormal event. We just don’t want to feel worse, so we need to shift. If you need support, reach out.

In Astrology, the Moon represents the Mother and Saturn represents the Father. In the most basic sense; father energy provides and expects, while the mother energy nurtures and connects. Now we must act as our own mother and father, providing what was missing and trusting what we received.

Like a mother’s love we can love ourselves unconditionally, for who and how we are. A father’s love, well he (Saturn) has expectations because he loves us. Loving ourselves and being proud of ourselves may be two different things. And we deserve to be proud of ourselves too.

You have the opportunity to hit a reset button going all the way back to January 10th, our Full Moon in Cancer, when the Sun was also conjunct Saturn and Pluto in Capricorn. These are simply cycles that offer windows of opportunity to change. Saturn brings the pressure and Pluto brings the transformation. These two, along with Jupiter are with us all of 2020, through December in a powerful and profound way. It is best to heed their lessons along the way. Come December 2020 you will be so glad you did!!

Pluto in Capricorn is our capacity for change in 2020. How can I transform these patterns? What little change can I make that take me out of the loop of the past or where I am stuck? He is showing us where and what we need to liberate ourselves from. To both understand and accept what is out of our control and to make better choices about what is within our control to make our days better.

No astrology is here to hurt or frustrate us. The energy is here to help us grow, into our soul’s destiny on our soul’s path.

Jupiter in Capricorn gives us the openness, optimism, and hope that if I put in a little effort and make tiny adjustments, take small actions I’ll see the rewards. I’ll feel better about myself and my future. We can’t just give up, we need to stay grounded, keep believing and stay the course because it will take us someplace better!

And so, I make the emphasis on little, tiny, and small because we are overwhelmed and exhausted much of the time. And all this water energy (Mercury is in Cancer too and Neptune is in Pisces) wrapped up in a pandemic, social unrest, and ongoing uncertainty can make us very sensitive and overwhelmed by just the word “effort” or “change”. Believe me I get it. Cancer wants you to truly nurture yourself through this, but that may be different than hiding and emotionally indulging. And Saturn is here in this New Moon to point that out and give you some support/focus to make choices that will actually make you feel better instead of worse.

Ultimately, Saturn is about doing the hard stuff, and we are made to do hard stuff too. Not all the time, but sometimes, just enough to make our life feel better. You are stronger (and more sensitive) than you think, you may not like it that you have to be, but you are.

A word on Feelings: Cancer as I mentioned rules over our emotional energy; what makes us feel loved, safe and protected, nurtured and cared for. With the Sun, Moon and Mercury here, focus on creating that. Put yourself on the agenda. We are in this for the long haul and we are still processing shock and uncertainty. We can use this New Moon to move into adapting, feeling stronger and even hopeful.

Using these huge waves of emotions to work through, to channel, to focus them in a way that is not self-destructive, but helpful, creative, nurturing, and connecting (all Cancer words), requires boundaries, self-discipline, effort and focus (all Capricorn words). By integrating and keeping these opposing energies balanced we will feel better about ourselves, our future, and our ability to deal with it.

Be stingy (Capricorn) and protective (Cancer) with your energy (feelings), put it or give it only where it really matters, where it makes you feel better about yourself, and absolutely no judgment allowed (shadow of Cancer and Capricorn). That is the ultimate for this Cancer/Capricorn reset New Moon. 

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Perfect For Me

Posted on March 30, 2015 at 1:35 PM

More Love Monday Mantra!

"My True Love Is not perfect, but perfect for Me".  

Last week I had to have a tough conversation with a client. I had to tell him that I sent him someone perfect for him, but he missed it because he thought she wasn't "perfect". I felt so sad for him. I explained to him that the "flaw" he saw was so small that even I hadn't noticed it. And so insignficant to her beauty and intelligent nature. After we talked he felt regretfull and called to ask her out again. But she said no because she had felt his judgemental nature. So sad. 

We've all heard the admonition- don't expect perfect. And I agree! And I disagree! What?? Can I do that? Yes, it's my blog ;0

So here's why~ When we are out there looking for perfection; what are we really doing? What is it that we really want? Do we know? Or are we just making sure we don't get hurt and ALL our wants and desires are satisfied? 

Are you a perfectionist in the other areas of your life? Does this crossover into your relationships? Your search for love?

Here's an exercise--If you made a list of the perfect partner, where do you fall in matching that list? Are you generous, fit and funny (fill in the blanks)? Or are you uncociously looking for someone to complete you, to bring the qualities you currently lack but want/admire in your life? 

Or do you exhaust yourself, trying to be perfect; to hide your percieved flaws and therefore find it difficult to tolerate imperfection in others?

It may be time to ask- What's love got to do with it? Perfectionism has nothing to do with Love.

The best thing you can do in the process of waiting for and finding The One is to figure out what you need, not what you expect. And then be the kind of person worthy of that. Be the best version of who you want, that you can be. That's not perfection, that's real. And worth it. 

Looking for the right one can be tricky business. There is nothing in this life that can touch us any deeper than love. For better or for worse. Finding and keeping Love isn't out there; it's starts within you.

If you are stuck in a pattern of perfectionism you are setting up your love life and your heart, for failure. Ugh! We do not want those words in the same sentence! So, I encourage you to ask yourself- Do you want perfect or perfect for you? Trust me, they are not the same. Perfect for you makes you much happier!

Make the list, and then get to work on you. 

Wishing you More Love,

Wendy

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